“I’m furious after discovering recently that my mum’s been taking my five-year-old son to church behind my back when he stays with her at the weekend. She brought me up a Catholic but I stopped going to mass years ago and my husband has no religion. When our son was born, we made the decision not to bring him up in any religion. We even had a naming ceremony instead of a baptism, which didn’t go down well with my mother at all.

Last week, I bumped into one of my mum’s friends and she said how nice it was to see my son, Jamie, when my mum takes him to church on a Sunday. I couldn’t believe what I was hearing. Every two or three weeks, Jamie stays over with her on a Saturday night so we can go out.

My mum knows full well it goes against all our wishes. What’s next – getting him christened on the sly? I want to tackle her about this but I’m worried it will open a huge can of worms as she doesn’t like it when I challenge her beliefs. I also feel slightly guilty because she looks after him quite a lot and I don’t want to lose her as a babysitter. My husband’s not happy about the situation either. What should I do?”